Okay. So before I begin:
No. I don't have the answers or the 'magic mechanism' that makes coping with weight gain in recovery a piece of cake.
(Pun completely intended...)
in this post I intend to explore some coping strategies that might be helpful to people struggling. Everyone's different...peoples EDs are all different too...so what works for someone else, may not work for you, and vice-versa. It's about giving everything a go, several times if necessary, until (or if) you find something that helps!
I guess the harsh reality is, if you never find something that helps, then tough.
It's got to be done. This is literally a matter of life & death.
So suck it up & have some cake...!
1. Get Inspired!
When you feel inspired, you have this positive boost...you believe that actually fulfilling your goals is possible...
For me, this is kind of hit-and-miss, but the reason I'm mentioning it is because I had a message from a girl who was in a (scarily) similar position to me in recovery, but had actually be successful & is living a much happier& recovery-focused life now! It was so nice to read because it reassured me that maybe my slightly ambitious plans aren't actually crazy unrealistic after all, despite all the (completely understandable) doubt & unease displayed by some of the people around me.
Have photos/posters on your walls, notes on your bathroom mirror, quotes on flash cards...whatever works for you! Just make it visual & easy-access! There's no point in having a photo album under your bed, gathering dust that you never look at...have the things that make you smile accessible with as little effort as possible!
3. Use your 'Support Network'!
If you're lucky enough to have people around you who love & support you, then USE THEM!!!
Use them as a reminder to yourself of why you're recovering. They love you& they only want the best for you so listen to them!
I remember the moment I told my boyfriend that I was gaining weight & his reaction blew me away. I think I got so caught up in my own head thinking weight gain was like the devil, that I didn't actually realise just how important it was to the people around me. It just blew my mind that someone really cared THAT much about me to have such an emotional reaction.
He's my absolute hero...I'm so lucky.